Monday, March 12, 2007

What Happened?

Well Sunday morning my son (Corey) was having one of those mornings. Unfortunately I have to be the heavy with him. Everywhere else in his life he is given whatever he wants whenever he wants because he can throw his weight around or become aggressive. I can't allow that at home for obvious reasons and I don't think I would do him any favors long term if I did. So we had been in a battle of wills all morning and it finally came to a head around 11:30. I left the kitchen and walked towards the den and Corey jumped on my back. Not to piggyback but to try to push me down. I should insert here that even when he was trying to push me down it wasn't to retaliate he just wanted the extra snacks and he figured if I was on the floor he could get it. Anyway he jumped on my back and began trying to push me to ground. I have maintained the upper hand with him all of this time because I have strong enough legs to stand toe to toe with him when he decides to be aggressive. Unfortunately yesterday I was standing on a rug that slipped probably from the force of Corey pushing and me resisting. 238 lbs pushed down on my leg that was now off balance and I broke my ankle. And then he fell on top of me. I have a clean break all the way across on one side and a hair line fracture on the other side. The picture is of the soft cast I will wear for the next couple of days while the swelling goes down. Then I will get a hard cast that I will wear for 6-8 weeks.

But "what happened" is not the story it's what do I do now. Corey is with hubby who said, "well you can't manage Corey with that soft cast." Which left me and my mom with the impression he figures I can manage when I get the hard cast. As usual he is completely oblivious to what I do and what I will have to deal with wearing a full cast and trying to take care of Cameron and Corey by myself. It is my right ankle so I can't drive, I can't afford to be out of work for 8 weeks. The list goes on and on and with each hour I realize just how difficult this could be. And then of course the real elephant in the room is...I am not sure what the long term repercussions of this incident will be. I am not sure if I will be able to continue as I have with Corey. I guess all of it will play out in the following weeks...

16 Comments:

Blogger for a different kind of girl said...

Oh! I gasped when I read this, and am truly speechless as to what to offer you. Wishes that the husband clears his eyes and truly sees what you're dealing with (and have been) would be starters. Then I imagine there has to be a multitude of plans made. I don't know the right things to say, but know I'm thinking of you.

10:19 AM  
Blogger LBP said...

Oh dear, this isn't what I wanted to read here at all...I'll be thinking of you. Good Luck, keep us in the loop.

11:01 AM  
Blogger SaltLakeDave said...

Oh My, seems like you had quite the weekend. I am truly sorry, and like the others wish I could give some good advice. I am thinking of you, and hope you get some help =(

11:23 AM  
Blogger Finished Last said...

I am so sorry. I know this is not the sort of drama you need at all and it is times like this I wish my blogger friends were closer so I could be of more practical help. I will send up some prayers for quick healing and a lot of wisdom, I know you could use both right now.

11:26 AM  
Anonymous tom allen said...

Oh crap - when I saw the pic I thought it was just a sprain or something.

Hey, why not tell your hubby to just take Corey for the next couple of months. Do something more useful than get a friggin' haircut, for cry eye!

12:26 PM  
Blogger Serenity said...

I still doubt hubby will be the go-to guy with Corey, but take whatever help you can. you need to recuperate for everyone's sake. Including yours.
more hugs!

2:14 PM  
Blogger deb said...

I wish I lived close enough to drive you around. I'm sorry. How does Corey feel about all this? Do you have sick time? Is there unemployment insurance for something like this? I want to help, but don't know what to do.

2:44 PM  
Blogger ArtfulDodger said...

Poor sweet Cat, good grief, just breaks my heart to hear about that. Like the others here you have my best wishes and my prayers, so frustrating at times like this, when someone needs help that we can't give. But the Lady and my thoughts are with you. :)

3:18 PM  
Blogger Unspoken Drama said...

Holy God!! I am so sorry to hear this. I thought for sure it was something minor when I saw the photos. Please take care of yourself, I truly wish I could say or do something to help you. *hugs*

Drama

4:32 PM  
Blogger oblivion said...

I'm sorry babes! I like FADKOG gasped when I read this.

I wish I was closer to help you out.

HUGS!

9:33 PM  
Blogger Fusion said...

Oh Cat, I'm so sorry this happened to you and your son, if I had known I would never have made light of it in my last comment. Like others have said, it's so hard that we're all spread out around the country (and world), but know my thoughts are with you and your family, and big hugs too.

3:27 AM  
Blogger Emily said...

Holy crap, Cat, that is terrible.

Is there some reason you can't say "I can't manage him for the next two months - you are his father and it is more than your turn!"?

Even if he won't take him, he can at least help out!

7:26 AM  
Blogger FTN said...

Geez, that's awful. Sorry to hear all that.

I bet that must have hurt a ton when it broke. Ouch.

4:50 PM  
Blogger Cat said...

Thank you guys, sincerely. I went back for the hard cast today and it's not too bad. I have a shoe that goes with it. I can't put any weight on it right now but the doctor thinks if I am good and use my crutches for the next few weeks I should be able to move from the full cast to a boot or something easier to manage. 3 weeks with this cast sounds a lot better than 8 so I am going to do my best to use the crutches.

I wound up driving my 10 year old to school his ride fell through. This morning was very daunting for me...I am on my own and now I am on my own with a full cast and crutches. I am going to have to find a way to manage. And driving with my left foot isn't safe or ideal. But I did manage, my son made it to school at least. I am just going to take things day by day.

7:23 PM  
Blogger kimba said...

OHMYGOD CAT!!! I didn't realise!! Man this is awful - and like others I'd be there in a flash if I knew where you lived..

Hope you get what you need from those around you. best love honey.. xx

7:58 PM  
Anonymous tom allen said...

I can see that I'm now going to be watching CNN in case they report any unusual accidents resulting from a mono-footed driver.

5:25 PM  

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