Are we moving away from gay and straight?
(11:39:32)marguaritte: nydailynews
(11:40:15)marguaritte: when are Americans going to learn that people aren't just 'straight' or 'gay'? There's so many steps in between -- THIS kind of thing should prove that.
For some reason this really made me think about our sexuality. Now that we have evolved away from relationships primary role being about survival ie. procreation. I wonder if we are also beginning to evolve away from "gay" and "straight" and moving more towards bi-sexuality. We talk about this kind of thing all the time and I typically joke that I know I am straight because when I think of sexual completion I need a penis to be part of it. But the more I think about that statement the more I wonder if I associate completion with a penis because straight sex is the only sex I know. I can't help but wonder if I experienced satisfying sex with a woman if I would be so sure. Which then makes me wonder, could I have satisfying sex with a woman? Which leads to and if I could does that mean I am gay? And that leads me back to my original question/statement of with procreation out of the picture is sexuality more about who you meet and love and less about the labels "gay" or "straight"?
My first reaction to the article was that men hide being gay because of the social stigma that is still associated with being gay. And what being on the down low really means is gay men pretending to be straight to avoid alienation. But I am beginning to wonder if it is that simple. Or if there are truly bisexual men? Just something rolling around in my head...
(11:40:15)marguaritte: when are Americans going to learn that people aren't just 'straight' or 'gay'? There's so many steps in between -- THIS kind of thing should prove that.
For some reason this really made me think about our sexuality. Now that we have evolved away from relationships primary role being about survival ie. procreation. I wonder if we are also beginning to evolve away from "gay" and "straight" and moving more towards bi-sexuality. We talk about this kind of thing all the time and I typically joke that I know I am straight because when I think of sexual completion I need a penis to be part of it. But the more I think about that statement the more I wonder if I associate completion with a penis because straight sex is the only sex I know. I can't help but wonder if I experienced satisfying sex with a woman if I would be so sure. Which then makes me wonder, could I have satisfying sex with a woman? Which leads to and if I could does that mean I am gay? And that leads me back to my original question/statement of with procreation out of the picture is sexuality more about who you meet and love and less about the labels "gay" or "straight"?
My first reaction to the article was that men hide being gay because of the social stigma that is still associated with being gay. And what being on the down low really means is gay men pretending to be straight to avoid alienation. But I am beginning to wonder if it is that simple. Or if there are truly bisexual men? Just something rolling around in my head...
Labels: blogging, relationships
posted by Cat at
9:50 PM
3 Comments:
I don't think it's as easy as one or the other - I think you're on the right track when you say it's not about labels. Maybe more as degrees of straightness or gayness.
Me personally, I think I'm more straight than interested in other girls, but I could absolutely see myself in a satisfying relationship with a woman.
I am interested in the topic because I find that my co-workers and friends that are say 10 years younger than me seem more open to that. It makes me wonder what my children's relationships will be like. Will it be more free flowing? I have a feeling it will...
I think there are definitely bisexual men, and women, too. I know that I have slept with at least one bisexual man.
Also, sex is so complex and mixed up with emotions. one of my friends, for instance, identifies as bisexual. From observation he is actually possibly gay, because he really seems to lust after men much more than women. But emotionally he is much more attracted to women, and despite his physical inclinations, only seems to have relationships with women.
Its true that young people seem a lot more open to this stuff, and I must say I am glad for the sake of my queer friends that they seem to be more tolerant, too. People did terrible things to queer people when I was in school.
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